When the wife does not enjoy sex
There is good food and there is bad food. Like food, there is good sex, and there is bad sex.
I have received complaints from more than one married woman to the effect that they do not enjoy sex. The odds are that it is usually because the husband is a bad chef in bed. Or he is ignorant of certain things. It is sad that there are still men out there who think that being a man in bed is about pulling their weight and satisfying themselves.
But that doesn’t make a man. He gets satisified and she gets to despise the experience beecause it left her empty.
The other possibility is that she might have been fed wrong information about sex before marriage. There was the real life story of a newly-wed bride who wouldn’t let her husband sleep with her because “sex is dirty”. True life story. Here in Nigeria.
Another possibility is that the lady may have been sexually abused in the past and she freezes at the idea of copulation.
Whatever is behind it, she concludes that she doesn’t like sex. Her husband notices that she’s not so into it, and over time begins to react to that. His desire for her may wane, and if not curbed soon, an extramarital affair sneaks into the picture.
If you are in that boat, things don’t have to go that way. Whether you are the husband or the wife and for some reason you think that you don’t “like” sex, that can change. With some extra information and some help from your spouse, the situation can change.
You and your spouse can learn to harmonise and make the kind of music that will sweeten your hearts and bring a fresh spark into your marriage.
Why not plan to attend this month’s The Marriage Bed seminar, book a counselling session, or perhaaps pick up some of the available publications to help you on your way?